【看完上一篇,顺便读句英文吧】快乐夫妻的秘密动力

Happily married couples aren't smarter,richer,

or more psychologically astute than ohters.

But in their day-to-day lives,

they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps the negative thoughts

and fellings about each other(which all couples have)from overwhelming their postive ones.

—John Gottman(以研究婚姻关系著名的美国心理学家)

快乐夫妻并非更聪明、更富有,他们的心理也不比别人更敏感。

但在日常生活里,他们偶然触发了一种动力,即不让彼此的负面想法和情绪(这是每对夫妻都有的)盖过正面的(想法和情绪)。

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连岳注:快乐夫妻绝非不红脸,不争吵,没烦恼,而是他们懂克制,善调整,收益为正数。

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